You are still a kid...No I am not.
Son you are still a kid. No matter how old you are but for your parents you will always remain as a kid. They just love to advise you when you don't even seek one, they love to select dresses for you, whether you like it or not doesn't matter, they just loves to deny each & every offer of yours even if it will turn out to be profitable afterwards, they always remain curious to know each & everything about your existing friends and at times they even loves to decide as who should be your friends, WOW. They think you are the most stupid person in the world that anyone can make you fool anytime & you deserve someone with you always to guide you. Above that if you are the only child of your parents then the first thing you want to do is to hit that person who coined that " eklauta hai na isiliye laadla bhi hai ". I completely disagree this notion with reasons I already mentioned above. Yes, being a single child, you did not need to share your toys, gift's, and chocolate’s but you need to listen your parents every time & even on the issues which they just don’t know, you are so looked after by them that your friends started to believe that you are still immature and a bit coward. They started to ring you up the moment you are getting late by mere thirty seconds, they start to enquired about you from your friends, teachers and all those people who possibly know you or even just seen you once. GREAT. Isn't it.
No, I am not saying that it is wrong to be concerned about your child, but parents need to understand the need of the hour. They need to understand that time is changing & if you are showing that much love for your child then he/she cannot learn the outside life. The child then need someone beside him/her every time. It affects the decision taking quality and the child can never be sure about his/her decision. Moreover, his/her own friends make fun of him/her. The child is under lot of pressure & finds (him/her)self very alone. He/she start to believe that parents is doing this intentionally & they just don’t want you to enjoy life as your friends did. Which is obviously not the case, but this over caring/possessive nature of parents actually make life tougher in future for that child. The atmosphere which child enjoys at home will not going to welcome him/her outside and then he/she realized he/she was cheated. The child then finds it very difficult to deal with the world outside.
Parents need to understand the need or the expectations of their child. Every year on the birthday, its just not the age, which increased it,’s the experience, understanding and the knowledge of the child, which multiplies and get promotion too. Parents need to understand the fact that the child learn more in the company of friends rather being sits with them and listens to their advice. They need to understand with the passage of time their will be mental, physical and biological changes in the body of 2 year old KID to 22 year old GUY, which is perfectly normal & fine. They need to understand the need of privacy that a 22 year old guy or girl need. They need to understand the place of all those failures in the life that makes him/her more profound person. They need to understand when their child is talking to a girl or a boy it does not necessarily his/her girlfriend or boyfriend. They need to understand that the losses today would earn him/her profit tomorrow & for that, he needs to try on his/her own way not the traditional or the way taught by parents. Hence, I request all the parents not to be over possessive towards your child and let him/her free a bit so that he/she can learn the gift of god called life. Believe me one day he/she will justify that little freedom & thrives to success & relish the opportunity to say…………… No I am Not.
Woo!
ReplyDeleteIs thsi the experience of a troubled child or a parent in the making?
you are correct, one would always be a kid for one's parents. Of course they need to understand that their Pyara bacha is something beyond their off spring...he is a person in his own virtue..an individual..who needs to find his own space his own way... so i8s it the Saurabh's way?
Well a well coined autobiographical account ...did you make your parents read it?
Now for your love of the apostrophes..check them here..remove where they have been wrongly used...and do it now...NOW
I agree...actually parenting is a skill that is unfortunately left to fate to be taught...we all decide as children that we'll not do this and that with our kids...but alas ...we all end up repeating :(
ReplyDeleteyou are too correct when you mention that mistakes will make one grow. Trials and failures are a way of learning and over protection can lead one no where. Giving them enough sense and then trusting your kids to make their own decisions is the best kind of child rearing a parent can give.
And you know what! reading your article makes me feel so blessed that I was allowed to take risks and make my own choices and commit my errors in the process of growing up, though I now understand that it must have been so tough for my parents who never overtly expressed how stressed they might have felt !
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ReplyDeleteDefinitely the experience of the sufferer child Ma'm. Well, it is not yet my way. My way will be completed when my kids accept me more as a friend than a father.
ReplyDeleteNaa my parents will never going to read it ever, I wonder they even know this phenomenon called blogging and that their son is expressing his thoughts on it.
Well, I try not to repeat what all or most of the parents do.
Hmm I can understand the situation of parents but still they should give their kid one chance to actually try to achieve his/her goal. I wish every one will get a parent like yours.